I was always taught that no matter how much you want to, you can never change your man. So many girls try, and end up disappointed or frustrated. It's not that they don't love you, it's just how they are.
Now my boyfriend is a slob. (OK, truth be told, I'm a slob too, but he's worse than me.) However, I've been coming up with ways to make it more livable, without him having to do much.
In the evenings he usually sits in his comfy chair in the corner of the living room, and trash will pile up all around him. (I swear that the corner can look like an episode of hoarders if I don't get to it in time). Now, I've bought a nice waste basket that I placed between the arm of the chair and the bookshelf, so he can throw stuff away (which is what I want), without having to get up (which is what he wants) win win!
He's also stopped leaving the empty ice trays in the fridge. I know he only does this because he doesn't want to fill them. I don't mind filling them, but I hate going into the freezer and finding no ice. So the deal is struck, leave the ice trays next to the freezer when one is empty and I'll fill them. Win win!
Now, I need to figure out how to get him to clean the fish tank... and how not to close the mayonaise so tight that I can't open it.... hmmmmm
My husband has gotten messier and messier. He was super tidy when we were dating and I don't know what happened. He leaves his clothes all over the house, so maybe I just need strategically placed hampers everywhere? Your trick with the garbage can cracked me up, yet it's so brilliant.
ReplyDeleteI think you are on to something here! After 5 years of training a husband I have found that meeting in "the middle" usually works best :)
ReplyDeleteHahahahaha! Love it...I like trying to give mine positive reinforcement when he's good, and going batshit crazy when he messes up! (JK....or am I?! :-P)
ReplyDeleteYup, it's definitely a work in progress here too. I also acknowledge that I can be a clean freak when I have time to be, so I try not to be unreasonable in my standards. I think Heidi has the right idea... positive reinforcement works for dogs, so it should work for men as well! :)
ReplyDeleteI spoiled my husband when we first got married because I was still in College and had time to clean and do everything - I recommend a demonstration of the dishwasher and vacuum cleaning.
ReplyDeleteLet me know if you succeed, I'm not doing well here at those.
Lol... Love it.
ReplyDeleteGreat blog
looks like you've learned the fine art od "compromise". I'm proud of you and him too
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